+Him Or The KIDS?

So I was watching the Jeremy Kyle show this morning and I actually haven't been watching this show for the longest time, but he does manage to come up with some pretty interesting stories.

On the show there was a women who chose her boyfriend over her children, to the point where he would tell her to kick them out and she would obey him and do just that.

Now the question is: Why do some women tend to choose the men in thier lives over their own kids?

In some cases. women who grow up without father figures are more proned to obey their boyfriends and their husbands. They are afraid of losing the only male figure that they have in their lives and sometimes will even go as far as turning their backs on their own kids just to keep that person around.

Although it is understandable, in the sense that women that do this have been through some type of phycological abuse, it is certainly not ok.

On the show, the girl that was speaking about her mother was willing to give her another chance to be a better person.

Would you have given your mother a second chance to accept you, even though you did nothing to deserve the rejection in the first place?

In most cases, people choose not to associate themselves with that, even though that is their parent.

I think this was probably one of the first real episodes I've seen (as far as this show goes) where the child wanted her mother to be part of her life more then the mother wanted to be a part of her childs life. And that's honestly a little sad.

No parent should choose a relationship over their kids. Especially if that relationship is mentally or physically abusive. Not only to the mother, but to the kids as well.

If you are in an abusive relationship and you're unsure how to get out of it and you find yourself making drastic decisions about your kids, as the mother in this episode did, you might want to consider talking to a counselor about issues in your past. Solving issues in ones past, gives the answers to a better future.

And a better relationship with your children.